Men need to be the men. I used to get all stroppy and fluster about whatever issue was in front of me. Only three years ago, I gave up during one of these emotional times and collapsed into a hug from my surprised husband.
This hug, I later learned
from him, was the best thing I could have done. He felt needed, and from his arms I felt I was not dealing with everything on my own. Now he reminds me occasionally to go to him when my emotions are threatening to take over my sense. He feels loved, we enjoy
the physical contact, and both are built up by the exchange.
Let him know you need his comfort – that you are grateful he is there for you. Above all else… respect him.
Every man in the world has something that can be respected.
Look for it if it is not so obvious and let it grow in your mind. Then you watch him grow in your estimation. He will start to rise to your appreciation of him in other areas. Never manipulate him. Thank him for catching you out if you do.
saying sorry and your family will eventually copy. Don’t ever give in to becoming a sniveling mess of apology though. One genuine ‘sorry’ is enough. Keep your dignity because a good man will not want you broken – and a bad
man should never have that power.
The Holy Spirit will give you self-control, and poise. Use it to make your man notice your level-headedness and inner joy. Feed off God’s words and let your soul rise with the incredible truths about you. Struggle
it out with Him on the floor if you have to and ask help with everything. Plead over your marriage and for your united purpose. HE WILL NOT LET YOU FAIL IF YOU KEEP TURNING TO HIM!!!
Never say a bad word about your spouse in public! EVER!!
Build him up instead, and watch him learn to treasure you.
Use humor a lot, always sensitively and together. Laugh at yourself in a light fun way without putting yourself down.
Painfully if necessary (your pain – even when you want to be
selfish!), be open and honest about money dealings, family priorities and all important matters. Let him know he could read your emails, etc. it he wanted to – but don’t make him. A CLEAR CONSCIENCE IS A POWERFUL TRANSFORMER!!
as the final say, and let him be. It will only hurt a few times.
Oh and… don’t let yourself get away with selfishness and brooding. It wears ugly!